tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4705745015696842372.post9140344413809079425..comments2023-10-18T04:55:56.256-07:00Comments on They Call Me Mommy: Why It's My ChoiceMetaMommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04215017798814280039noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4705745015696842372.post-4291641252297537252008-08-08T00:09:00.000-07:002008-08-08T00:09:00.000-07:00I don't need to be "empowered" by labor to feel va...I don't need to be "empowered" by labor to feel valuable. That's not what makes me tick. And I'm not one to regret things. Everything in life is a learning experience, both the good and the bad.<BR/><BR/>I enjoy a good dialogue, but honestly, I'm not getting the impression that you're looking to provide helpful insight as much as you are trying to stubbornly prove you're point. I'm sure you have no ill intentions with your comment, but it comes off like you think your way is right, and that's that. <BR/><BR/>When it comes to pregnancy and labor, I often hear all are different. Which is why I don't understand why so many people have so many conflicting opinions for me. I've had family, friends, and strangers (at the farmers' market) tell me how I should deliver. And whatever I choose, someone will be disappointed. Which I just don't understand. I don't see how it impacts others, especially if said others won't be doing my laundry or changing MetaToddler's diapers.<BR/><BR/>As for my choice, I'm not a victim here. I chose my doctor knowing full well that a VBAC was possible, but unlikely. I also know the process of recovering from a c-section well more than any alternatives. Am I looking forward to it? No. But I wasn't looking forward to laboring forever, either. My mother and sister lost a lot of blood during their natural labors. Isn't there danger in that, too? And I already can't care for my family at week 39, so waiting several weeks would be time lost with them, too. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure I'm coming off rather defensive, but it is very personal to me. I've made my choice, and I've no intention of changing it. And I'll just leave it at that.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the well wishes, though :-)MetaMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04215017798814280039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4705745015696842372.post-89899676332806740132008-08-07T13:23:00.000-07:002008-08-07T13:23:00.000-07:00"but my point is that I never cared about the empo..."but my point is that I never cared about the empowerment or experience of labor, I just want to assure the safety of the baby and me."<BR/>And honestly for me, that is what VBAC is all about - the safety of my baby AND ME, I want to be sure I would be around for my husband and my other children. And to say you don't care about the empowerment and experience of labor - that makes me sad and it could be something you regret for the rest of your life - but hey "at least you'll have a healthy baby" - that's all our society seems to care about anyway.<BR/>And your reference to ICAN in the "quick, quick" post was lost on me as those are usually links to cupcake sites like babycenter - sorry I missed that.<BR/>Like I said, good luck, I hope whatever YOU choose works out for you.Karin Person Finleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02815748371505192027noreply@blogger.com